I ended up just installing the larger tb without the spacer for now (ran out of time since I had to help change shackles on a cj7 and repair a leaky t-case cover). I actually have real gasket material now since I needed a new seal for between the lower and upper half of the tb and to get a new one you have to get the $50 kit with a new fpr and 4 different tb to manifold gaskets (generic set for all vehicles with that style of tbi).
after attaching the tps, and iac / wide open throttle switch bracket i found that the throttle spring was installed on the wrong notch and prevented the throttle from going wide open so i got to take everything back off and pull the shaft out a bit to fix that. the new shaft has a slightly different end to it that has a few different cable attachment options which made the finger throttle attachment easier. but i did notice the new shaft has more side to side play than my old one. also the new tb had an interference issue with the egr valve when sliding it on the studs so I had to grind the housing a bit to fit around the massive egr valve.
random pics of old tb.
As for the results. there is a noticeable difference. only negative right now is the jeep is idling a hair above 1k, going to adjust the tps when it cools down to hopefully fix that. jeep seems to be more responsive and run smoother and pulls allot better from ~3500 through 4500 RPM. will now have to be more pedal conscious off-road to make sure i don't over-rev it. some of the smoother running could be from cleaning out the vacuum lines going out of the tb as they had some built up junk in them.
edit: doesn't gas eat away at the rtv over time?