Hmmm, I see there are some misconceptions with SOA's.
If you''re already lifted 4" or more then a SOA is fairly simple to install since you won't be gaining that much more height. When I decided to go SOA on the front of my Jeep, it cost me $30 for the perches and $150 for two stock leafs springs. Everything else was carried over from the SUA.
Steering is no different SOA or SUA. The only real difference is that the SUA is going to be stiffer so it moves less. But that's because of the leafs and not because of any corrections to the steering geometry. Because of this, you will see more bumpsteer then with a SUA generally speaking. Now if you raise the spring rate of the SOA, it will reduce the bumpsteer. Adding a trackbar to the front will help a lot since that really stiffens up the front. I'm just running the stock arms with a dropped pitman arm currently.
The rear? Well, I didn't want to deal with axle wrap so I kept it SUA. It flexes a bit less then the front but it's not bad at all. Otherwise, adding a extra main leaf to the stock leafs would help alleviate axle wrap. If you really wanted to do it right then getting some SOA springs from Rubicon Express would probably be best. At least for an off the shelf solution.
As for highways, you adjust to it. Although with my SOA/SUA setup, it's a bit more surefooted then if I went all the way. With the sway-bar attached, the front is well behaved. 75mph is smooth and tracking is fine. Emergency braking could be a bit better but that's fixed with high-steer.
Offroad, though, it's a big difference. The front actually flexes. Instead of three wheeling, you'll have 4 down. The ground clearance is a big plus. If you do rocks, you'll be dragging your leafs. This is actually a problem with SUA's that have custom leaf packs. To get a softer ride but have the added spring rate of a thicker spring, they have to use thinner leafs but more of them. The problem this causes is the spring pack can get rather big. If you look at some older Jeeps that have National Springs leafs, you'll see they are usually 9 leafs to a pack and are huge. They flex really well and ride smooth though.
Although you're really opening up a can of worms, asking a person to defend their choice. It's a personal choice and is really dependent on their local trails as much as a personal preferance.