yes to the above: syn gear oil cuts down on friction and tends to stand up better to towing, higher RPM, etc. My DD tj has front and rear aussie lockers with syn diff oil and it really quiets them down. Before the lockers I changed the oil over to syn every oil change or every trail ride involving mud or water and shifting was somewhat smoother and what I would call happier. Most people see better driving and shifting results by using a synthetic gear oil. Friction modifiers are only needed again for a limited slip, etc due to the clutches inside that need the extra help. All my jeeps with lockers (aussies, arb and detroit) run best with a syn gear oil Our 4 bangers need all the help we can give em'! Well worth the cost.
*4 oz of friction modifier is required with Trac-Lok limited slip differential.
**Friction modifier is NOT required with Tru-Lok locker/limited slip differential (factory Rubicon locker).
75W-90 is what you should use. 75 correlates to the weight. Here is some info I found on a quick search.
from some other sites:
Fluid Capacities:
http://www.jeepforum.com/forum/f9/faq-fluid-capacities-489932/Synthetic oil was originally developed for applications for aircraft and military as a superior replacement to conventional oil. Synthetic oil can resist higher temperature before breaking-down which translates into superior lubrication and possibly extended drain intervals. I firmly believe the benefits of synthetic oil outweigh the higher costs.
common brands your parts house might carry are royal purple, mobil 1 and valvoline synthetics. I have used all brands with success.