Alright, the latest... I did not get the new header yet due to messing with a few more things first. I replaced the upstream and down stream sensors, and I am running oem plugs (tried them all, oem is the best) rotor andf cap are new. I ordered (from five 0) new injectors that are 22 pounds (like stock) but have 4 holes for better atomization. My harness also plugs right into them. They are the Ford blue (I'll get part # out later when I receive them -purchased today shipping today) I'll put in the new injectors, then replace the header with yet another Banks and hope for the best.
Having a flex tube is not the issue because you can clearly see the heat stress near the collector. The thermostat is not the issue because I had the problem before I even did that.
Once I have the new header on I will update again... This is getting expensive..
I will win this war.... Then when I figure it out, I'll trash the 4 banger for a 5.7 Hemi... I am on a quest!!! If I have to take a 2nd and 3rd out on this house I will figure it out.....
Thank you for all your input above, they are all valid points.